I listened to Marie Forleo interviewed by Kris Carr this morning about Marie’s new book titled “Everything is Figureoutable”. I’m about to launch into the book, too.
Here’s the Marie Forleo podcast link: Episode 283 “Inside Everything is Figureoutable: Tears, Laughter and Real Talk on Book Release Day”
Marie Forleo YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/oacb01deFMQ
There was so much that was great about this conversation. It was real, down-to-earth, personal, inspiring, and offered real-life solutions. The vast majority of people I know (professionals, friends, clients), bump into fears and limiting beliefs over and over. They’re not tragedies or unlucky or bad. They’re really just part of being in this human life. The real obstacles in our lives are created by our brains.
I think listening to this interview is an hour well-spent if it gets you focusing on taking ownership of your can’t/won’ts and can/wills…if it gets you asking questions about what you want and what’s the next step in moving toward what you want. Shine the light on those fears and places where you’re telling yourself that you can’t when really it’s that you won’t. Explore it and own your conscious choices. It’s important to be clear about what you’re choosing. You might say that you want to create art but you’re not doing it. You might say it’s because you don’t have time but really you’re demonstrating that it’s because it’s not a priority. This is perfectly okay and in fact empowering if you own your choice. You might also discover that you’ve been choosing “won’t” and that you want to re-prioritize so you choose “will” and “am”.
We all tend to make excuses for why we aren’t doing things we say we value and want. Empower yourself by recognizing that you are choosing other things instead. Also recognize that you’re choosing them for important reasons which may be fears or may be greater values/priorities. When you make your choices conscious you might discover yourself making different choices that feel better. You might find yourself doing the art or learning about the thing you really want to do. Go for it! And, to quote Nike, “Just do it!” You are not alone or don’t have to be alone in this.
There’s also the part about how it feels when we say “I can’t” to ourselves. It sucks and it sucks the life force out of us. It doesn’t feel good. It’s disempowering. It often comes with self-criticism. That’s all B.S. Don’t get caught up in that ego game that keeps you down. See it for what it is…fear. It’s normal and understandable.
- I encourage you to take the time for yourself to listen to the interview at least once.
- I challenge you to look in the mirror for the places in your life that you’re making excuses.
- I challenge you to own your choices consciously.
What kind of person do you want to be?
Try saying to yourself something like, “I’m the kind of person who ________”
…does art for 2 hours on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Sundays.
…writes every weekday morning for 90 minutes.
…exercises 5 days a week.
…eats healthy food that makes my body feel good.
…spends 1 uninterrupted hour with my child every day.
You can make a new choice in any moment!
I hope you enjoy the interview. I’d love to hear how it resonates in your life.
P.S. I want to add that I’m writing all of this because I’m human, too. I value continually doing my best to be my best and to have my best. Like you, I also deal with fears and limiting beliefs that sometimes hold me back. I sometimes unwittingly make excuses rather than consciously choosing what I want.